Episode 7 - Cattle Drive/Prime Time Sex Time
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
You might think, after watching this week's episode, that I solved the cow problem
once and for all. Well, we still have trouble with the cows all the time. We have
one cow, Bertha—we named her “Bertha” because she always finds ways around the cow
fence—she leads the entire herd. So, yes, we still have problems with them to this
day. And I’m still a rancher. And yes, I still use the Hummer to do it. The babies,
they think it’s funny. They want to go out and pet them. “Mommy, can we go out and
feed the cows?” You know, that kind of thing. But, no way. No way! Sometimes, I’ll
let them come with me in the Hummer when I round them up, but not all the time.
And my cowgirl outfit? Let me put it this way… it has not gone to waste. And it’s
been cold in Dallas, so I haven’t been outside with it on.
But herding cows was easy compared with trying to find alone time with Deion. If you
want your marriage to work, that kind of time is very important. The Bible talks about
“where your money is, your heart is also.” If I want to compete in bodybuilding, I
need to work out in a gym, and I need to eat right. If I want to be a great basketball
player, I need to practice all the time. If I want to be a great make-up artist, I
need to do make-up on many different types of people, many skin tones, different looks.
I need to practice at it, in order to be successful. And so, if you want your marriage
to work, you need to have alone time with the person you’re married to, or you’re
going to grow in separate ways. You’re going to have your own interests, he’ll have
his, and it’s not going to work. It’ll work if you work it, but just like anything
else, you have to spend time working it.
We used to try to make a date night, so we could get that alone time. It was like,
“every Friday is our date night.” And it worked… for a minute. But with the change
of seasons, the kids started having football, then basketball, and now they have games
on Friday nights. So, now we don't say, “Okay, every Friday night is date night! Everybody,
we’re going out to the movies!” Instead of that, we find time to be together throughout
the week. It might be an hour of going and taking a walk. It doesn’t have to be anything
really big. He’s busy with his schedule, and I’m busy with mine, so it can just be
him standing with me in the kitchen while I’m cooking. That makes a difference to
me. That shows me that he's into me, he's concerned about me—because I know he does
not like to do that. Just the act of him being there says a lot. So, it could be after
we put the kids to bed, “hey, you got a movie in you?” Whenever you can fit it in,
you fit it in. Just to let him know, throughout the day, “you’re special to me, you
mean something to me, even though we have everything else going on around here, I
want to make some time for us, so what do you want to do?” Keeping it fresh. Sometimes,
when you schedule something, it’s just so mundane. You want spontaneity. You want
to come off the cuff with something. “Let’s go bungee jumping!” Just playing! That
wouldn’t happen.
