Episode 4 - Prime Time Romance/What a Woman Wants
Wednesday, May 07, 2008
After watching this episode, you can see that Deion and I are both romantics. Me more
than him, though. We've always been that way with each other, too. But if you asked
Deion who was chasing who when we first started dating, he would tell you that I was
chasing him. But don't believe that. It's a lie. Basically, Deion chased me. He chased
me like an Olympian going for the gold medal. He was very relentless, and he would
not back down. And ladies? I led that string a long way, honey. Women like chases.
They like to be chased, they like that game. We like that. He chased me, and he got
Once the chase was on, the first thing he did was hilarious. He sent me boxes and
boxes of work-out gear. I would spend a lot of time in the gym. A lot of time. That’s
what my thing was. And he called me up and he asked me, “did you get the stuff I sent?”
And I said, “yeah, um, thanks… okay.” You know, ladies, that’s not your typical gift,
especially not when you're just starting to date someone. So, he said, “get out your
sneakers.” And I did, and he said, “who’s at the bottom of your shoe?” But the problem
is, I’m not understanding a word he's saying! He’s from Florida, and I’m not used
to people talking that fast. Deion's a fast talker, and he’s a hard talker. That’s
why I call him James Evans (from “Good Times”), because James Evans is a hard talker,
Anyway, he kept asking me, “Who’s at the bottom of your shoe? Who’s at the bottom
of your shoe?” And I kept saying, “I feel really stupid right now, but I can’t understand
a word you're saying! Can you spell it out? I can’t understand you!” And he must’ve
said it over and over, like fifteen times, I kid you not. Who would have thought he
was saying, “who’s at the bottom of your shoe”? It just didn’t make sense to me. So,
finally he said, “what are you talking about? Just turn your shoe over!” And I turned
them over, and there was a picture of him in the bottom of these Nikes. It was really
cool, and really different. Very outside of the box, and not the normal thing, which
is what I really liked about him. He's very quick-witted, and he's always on his toes.
And he always has been. He’s a progressive thinker, and it’s all of those little things
that really, really got me.
Now that I'm settled down, and I'm watching Deiondra start to date, I like to give
out some advice. What I tell all my single girlfriends, no matter what age they are,
is this: if he wants you bad enough, he’ll wait. This is true at all levels. This
is for the virgin in every one of us. If he wants you bad enough, he’ll wait. Whether
it deals with sex, whether it deals with your career, whether it deals with starting
a family. Whatever the situation is: he’ll support you. From the beginning. Because
oftentimes, how it begins is how it’s going to be.
Many women mistakenly think, “oh, I can change him” or “oh, he’s going to get better”,
and he’s not. No. It gets worse. Because when they’re dating you, they send a representative.
They send a forerunner, the person who they want you to think they are. But after
you get together, the real man comes out, and by that time, he’s very comfortable.
And you’re already hooked. Many women get hooked with their hearts and their minds
and can’t get out of it. They don’t want to get out of it, and they’re too scared
to start all over. They’re thinking about the process of starting over, so they’re
not going to go anywhere, but, if they’d only taken the time to think about what they
were seeing in the beginning, and knowing that it was not going to get any better,
they’d see it was only going to get worse. Because you’re not meeting the man, you’re
meeting the rep.
But back to this week's episode. I knew it was inevitable for Bucky and Deiondra to
start dating. I only hope that they don’t fall for the first few that come their way,
and that they wait long enough to learn about people. Now, if they’re exposed to a
variety of people and personalities, they’re more apt to make really great decisions,
only because they’re able to process how people think, how they act, and what the
possible outcomes might be. You know, once you’ve been out in the world, and you see
a red rose, you know the chances of it smelling good are pretty great. You also know
the chances of it having thorns is pretty great. You hope that your kids will actually
utilize the advice that you give them, and even come back for more.
Regardless of the inevitable risks, I’m excited about Deiondra dating, because I’m
an extremely hopeless romantic. I totally love the dating scene. All my friends who
are single, I’m always like, “okay, okay… this is what you guys have to do, you have
to do this, that, and the other.” When any of our friends call us, you know, they’re
having trouble in their marriage, or whatever, I tell them they really have to lay
it out, and I’ll tell them what’s going to happen. So, it’s exciting for me, and at
this time in the kids’ life, and you really hope and pray that everything you know
that could happen, you try to put it in words, and ask them to absorb everything you
say and just trust me. And ten out of ten times, that’s not going to happen, but you
hope that the stumbling blocks that they fall over won’t be too hard.