Episode 7 - Cattle Drive/Prime Time Sex Time
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
The five-person bedtime has pretty much come to an end since this episode. The kids
still sleep in bed with us every once in a while, but now, though, we’ve got them
upstairs. But they’ll come down whenever they want.
When it comes to alone time with Pilar, I always make the effort for her. My hectic
schedule is over-exaggerated, anyway. I never go away longer than two days, and if
I do, I’ll bring Pilar. Even when I leave for football, I leave Sunday morning and
I’m back Monday morning at 6am. I coach all the kids’ teams, too, so I can’t be gone
so much. But scheduling my meetings in town, that can take some time. Honestly, though,
I ask more of her time than she asks of mine. I’m the one that keeps saying, “Baby,
let’s go on a walk,” “Baby, let’s check out a movie.” I’m the one to say that. And
I get upset when she can’t reschedule things. She’s got no job! How can she be busy?
She’s got no job! What does she do? I’m the one getting upset.
As you can see, Pilar and I work hard on our relationship, and we're constantly trying
to strengthen and grow. First of all, if you want to have a successful relationship,
you’ve got to have God in your life. If Christ isn’t the foundation of your life,
then it’s over. You may stray from the person, but you can’t stray that far from God.
If he’s not in your life, then you’re just going to wander aimlessly. Second, you
need communication. Third, you have to do the things that you did when you got them
interested in you in the first place. You can’t stray from how you started. If you
were Casanova at the beginning, you have to be Casanova at the end. So, those are
three intangibles there.
Also, you need time. You have to spend time together. And you have to involve each
other in what you do. That’s vital. No matter what she does, I have to continue to
do what I’ve got to do.